“Success or greatness come with a roller-coaster ride… anybody can apply the marathon concept to what they do.” – Nipsey Hussle
Persistence. A word that I kept hearing throughout my years in high school; I even wrote an essay about it. The funny thing is thinking back about it, I don’t think I fully comprehended what exactly it meant to have persistence. BOY TIMES HAVE CHANGED!!! Persistence is all I know now that I am older and more mature. The struggles get real at times, but hey that’s life. So, guess what? Remember last time we had a “Cup of Positivity” and “Planted seeds of Patience.” Well, I was actually preparing you for this marathon we are about to run in this garden. Yes. A whole marathon in this garden. Don’t look at me like I’m crazy; a girl has to work out to you know. However, this isn’t your typical marathon, this marathon isn’t about winning or losing. This is about pacing yourself to keep going and knowing how much energy you need to give for each part of the race. With the help of me of course *giggles * this marathon is going to teach you many things including my 6p’s of life, what precisely persistence means, learning that a little effort each day goes a long way and many more. With all that being said, put on your running shoes, grab a bottle of water and a towel and let’s start this hot and heated marathon NOW!
*starting pistol goes off * First things first, let’s define what exactly persistence is. My definition of persistence is “Determination to keep going despite how difficult things may get. Being able to stick it out or in my mothers’ words “bite the bullet” until the end no matter what happens.” My belief is this if you want something bad enough and you are 100% passionate about it you will be persistent. With that comes remaining patient and being positive because without those things… nothing is going to happen. Why? Think about it. If you wanted to learn an instrument and there is a particular song that you wanted to learn to play; no matter how long it takes to learn it, you are determined to get there right? So what do you do because you are so determined? You remain positive that one day you will be able to learn the instrument and be able to play that song and, remain patient because everything takes time.
OH MY GOD!!! It’s sweltering…why did you make me run this marathon? * looks around confused* I know you may be wondering is persistence an excellent quality to have in life. Well, the answer is, yes. It’s a quality that we should always nurture no matter how small the circumstance is. Think about it no matter how many times we have been rejected or knock down there is no better feeling than getting back up and trying again; after all, you only fail when you give up. The best example is a baby learning to walk for the first time. Every time they try to walk they fall down but notice most times when they fall, they: laugh, get right back up and, try again. That’s what you call persistence; once they get the hang of walking, they become consistent with it until it has reached perfection. That’s what we should be doing in life with anything we want to pursue, keep trying and have constant persistence with it. Those “failures” we encounter along the way and how we decide to deal with them have a real effect on our outcomes. Think about it…. if you attempt to achieve something and it doesn’t work out you have two options of a reaction. Either you will complain or in my raw version “bitch” about it, give up and say “forget this.” Which equals a negative outcome or; you will think about what could have gone wrong or what can you do to improve on your next attempt. Remain calm, cool and collective and try again. Which could possibly equal up to a more positive outcome. As for me *giggles * in some cases, I will complain, and I will bitch for a while, but OH TRUST ME!!! I will attempt again until I get it right; that’s persistence, and I’m still practicing and learning perseverance without the bitch in it. LOL!! This here leads me to my next point but first…
“Are you okay? You look like you are dying on the side of me. Come on don’t give up this marathon is a bit long but we are half way there!!! Just breathe don’t give up. I’m not giving up on you so don’t give up on me; we are going to get through this together.” Being a leader. Yes, a leader. Everyone can be a leader you know; however, you need that good quality of persistence because no one will follow a quitter. If that’s the case, then you shouldn’t be a leader. Point blank! As a leader not only do you need to be persistent with YOUR team, but you must be the foundation and the strong head to take on all the jealous and naysayers. Even if you are a leader for yourself and you are the leader for yourself and life you choose to live. While on this marathon you will have persons who will doubt you, become jealous or even tell you, you aren’t making any sense or you aren’t “good” enough. It’s up to you to block that out and keep going. You think persons who are significant leaders in this world listened to the negative sayers? NO. They pushed and pushed themselves, and now those naysayers can kiss their ass. Hahahahhha. If you have a hard time believing me look at Donald Trump. No shade intended.
Okay… I am thirsty, can’t breathe… OH GOD!!! Low-key I am dying *panting and clutching stomach * Yes I am dramatic!! *giggles * Alright so with this whole persistence marathon we are doing something else… you need to learn how to remain focused and pace yourself. During your marathon, the worst thing you want to do is lose focus on what is you are trying to accomplish. You can’t pay attention to the other runners on your marathon because even though you all are running a marathon, you all have different stories and different situations. Also if it looks like they are more prepared than you are it does not matter.
My mother always use to tell me “The race is not for the swiftest but for he who endures until the end.” , and this is so true. There is no need to rush anything, everything will happen in due time. This leads me to my next point.
Pacing yourself. There is no reason for you to stress yourself out and try to give your all, all at once. This is coming from someone who is always stressing… I don’t care how little the situation, I get stressed. *sigh * Anyway, all you have to do in this marathon to get where you need to go is to give a little each and every day. Once you do that you will notice more and more results even if it feels like forever. My advice on pacing yourself is to not think about the entire marathon, instead, focus on the fact that it will end eventually and in the meantime focus on the mile that you are now approaching. You never know what to expect; however, just know it won’t be easy and that’s the truth. Nothing in life comes easy. It’s essential to have your mind set to know that any long-term goal or endeavor will have setbacks along the way. Even if it feels like it’s only YOU, trust me everybody has some sort of delay they just don’t say all the time. However, it is on you to remain patient and remain faithful through it all. Pray and pray hard.
I will be honest with you… I get jealous sometimes when I see persons my age and possibly younger than me doing better than I am. Why are you looking at me like I’m crazy? I am being so serious right now! The reason being is because I feel like I could’ve been further in my marathon run than I am currently. Now I can admit I wasn’t persistent in my own marathon but, as you can see, now I am trying my hardest to keep going and help others like me along the way such as you who are reading this right now. Anyway… but yeah I do get jealous. Seeing them go off to school, graduate from university, moving into a lovely apartment or simply making a nice income. However, even though it may seem that way that doesn’t mean they are doing it all on their own and just pretending. Then I have to remember at one point in time the position I am in now I use to pray to be there, and now I am in the middle of it, and I need to learn to enjoy this mile in the marathon. This is why I say you must focus on yourself in the marathon and not the others who are running the marathon as well. If you keep paying mind to them, you will lose focus and may even lose patience in yourself, and you can’t afford to let that happen. I do not know about you, but I can’t feel my legs anymore!!!!! OH MY GOSH… it burns. Think I need to pace myself a little more.
Despite me getting a little jealous here and there sometimes I just remember this quote by Tobias Wolff, “We are made to persist. That’s how we find out who we are.” This is so true. You don’t know how strong you are until that’s the only thing you can do. That’s when you realize who you are as a person and how far you are willing to go to get where you need to be in life and what sacrifices you are ready to make. We have a life to live, and it will never be easy unless you are dead.
There is so much we can talk about with persistence, but I am running out of breath. OH MY GOSH!!! I am really out of shape. *panting *, in the end, we all have our own marathon. How you complete it is up to you whether you run it, jog it, walk it or even crawl it. Be a bumper sticker and stick with it. Keep up your persistence because whatever you want to accomplish in life you will need it. Whether it’s having your own business, getting promoted, passing a class or merely elevating in life itself. It won’t be easy; it will drive you crazy like a roller-coaster, but that’s just fine. YOU GOT THIS!! Now if you will excuse me I am tired, it is hot, and I am out of water; I am about to walk some of this right now. Do not wait up for me to keep going unless you are just as tired. Until then, in the words of Lauren London…